I recently got an email from one of our site visitors saying they had visited our old blog on BLOGSPOT only to find our message had been infiltrated by porn. Why doesn’t this surprise me?

Has our world gone totally nuts? I can not believe how this filth is infecting every single aspect of every sngle thing we do. I can’t begin to tell you how frustrating it gets.

Just4Ladies has been online for almost 9-years now. Until recently, when we launched our anti-porn campaign, and the Porn Proof Your Marriage courses, we hadn’t had a problem with pornagraphic messages appearing anywhere on our message boards or blogs; That has changed!!

Over the past 3 months we’ve had to discontinue three blog services and an equal number of message board services becuase of inappropriate advertising.  We can’t afford to buy premium services for these features and have to rely on good quality (if such a thing exists) free services to provide blogs and message boards.    I am so greatful to the members and even new visitors who have been gracious enough to make us aware when there is something inappropriate on one of our free hosted features.  Your help in this area is so greatly appreciated as it is virtually impossible to monitor every page of these freebies daily.  You’re our eyes out there and our gatekeepers. Without you, we couldn’t do it!

But then we have another group (albeit very small) who feel it necessary to inaccuratly judge us when something like this happens. The truth of the matter is, it hurts me when someone emails me and chews me out for something I had no control over KNOWING that the other 99.9% of our ministry is pure and maybe, JUST MAYBE the devil is trying to destroy a good thing.  Of course, they piously represent themselves as good, wholesome Christians who would NEVER view such a thing!!  Probably very true but the compassionate, understanding, forgiving part of their Christian makeup is lacking.

Sorry guys, it’s how I feel and it hurts me. DEEPLY.

I work 12, 16 sometimes 18 hours a day to keep these ministry sites up and running, I coach people at all hours of the day and night, I support the bulk of this ministry out of my own pocket and when someone emails me without thinking and says stuff like “this should be shut down”, or “I can’t belive you call yourself a Christian!” it hurts my feelings.  If you’re one of these people and your reading this, forgive me (if you know how) but you are wrong and I will die before I let the devil and the people he uses (you) shut down a ministry that has been here for 9 years saving families… on the other hand, if you want to look beyond whatever it is in your heart that would cause you to act before you think, I forgive you and could use your help!

Sorry if I sound harsh guys; but I am hurt. My life revolves around this ministry and when someone attacks it, I take it personal. Maybe I need prayer to not be so sensitive, or to be more forgiving myself, I’m not sure.

I do love and care about each and every one of you. I love serving the Lord in this ministry and I want to be here to help anyone who needs me; but how about a little bit of sensitivy and a lot a bit of common sense when addressing these issues.

Shell

I’m baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!  Can you buhlieve it? I left yesterday at 4PM and I was back by 2 PM today! The trip was excellent, the interview was excellent, Lorri and Larry were WONDERFUL provided WONDERFUL accomodations. 

Thanks to Map Quest, I got us lost within the first 90 minutes of the trip. HEHEHE… but Mike saved the day and although it took us an hour longer to get to Atlanta, we got there at about 9:30 PM and we were just too exhausted to even go and eat supper so, we had room service!!

It was sooooooo romantic! They wheeled this little linen covered table, set perfectly, right into our room; complete with crsytal glasses and all. So we each sat on a bed and devoured this delicious meal. Mike had Georgia shrimp and grits (Im from NY we don’t do grits hehe) and I had prime rib. It was so good.

We had to be up at 5:30 and to be honest, I can not remember the last time I saw 5:30. It’s been a long time, I know that much!

We arrived at the studio in plenty of time and I had my makeup done and THEN…I got to meet Sandi from InTouch!! And her WONDERFUL daughter!  I wanted so bad to stay and have coffee with her but Mike had to work tonight so we had to head back home. :o(   - We are planning on meeting Sandi in June for sure though!

 The show was great, I felt really relaxed and not too fat. Ugh, I hate being on television. I really enjoy radio though. No one can see me!! HAHA!!

 I will let you all know when the interview is available so you can check it out, in the mean time…I am gearing up for Nashville next!!

Love you all!

I always get a little meloncholy when Mike has to go back to work, especially when he works nights.  Of course there is a brief moment of “what ifs” that cross my mind but I immediately REBUKE them becuase I refuse to give the enemy even a fraction of an inch in my life. 

 For those that don’t know, my husband is a cop. He works in Knoxville in the worst section of town and the really bad part is…he chose it! Ugh!  I can handle all of his other shifts but the midnight shift is the one I like the least, it basically means 6 nights of sleeping alone and 6 days of waiting until about 3PM to talk to him. That’s about the time he wakes up. But I am thankful that he has a job he loves and I am even more thankful that God blessed me with this incredible man.

Mike was the second biggest miracle in my life. The first was my salvation and it was my heartbreak that made me realize that I was choosing to love men who would never do anything BUT hurt me. When I was ready, the Lord sent Mike into my life. That was 8 Years ago.  I am still as madly in-love with him today as I was 8-years ago.

 I have the blues tonight but only for a little while becuase in 11 hours, my sweetheart will be home and all will be well again. 

I sometimes wonder what would have happened had I refused to see that God made a better choice for me when it came to love. What of I would have stayed so focused and determined to get my ex back that I would have missed out on Michael altogether? The thought is unbearable. I can’t imagine life without him and I can’t imagine loving another human as much as I love him.  I am so thankful to God for all He taught me while I waited on Him to give me my “love” miracle.

I hope everyone has a really blessed week. I’ll be going to Atlanta on Weds for a Thursday television appearance on FamilyNetTV - I’ll be sure to post all the details and maybe even some pictures!

 Love you all!

I soooo love Saturday. I slept in until 9 AM and then had plans to take Ashley to look at prom gowns but my back was killing me so we opted to stay home and go look at gowns next weekend.  I really can’t believe that my baby is getting ready for Senior Prom and graduation. It seems like just yesterday, she was starting Apple Tree Academy Pre-K classes. <sniff> She’s off to college next year. I’m not sure I am ready for that so how about I just change the subject? LOL!!

I was reading the prayer requests from a fellow prayer chain and I got so frustrated with one of the prayer posters. Sometimes it is so hard to reserve opinion and just offer prayers for the situation, which is what I usually do with this person but today I felt what I describe as righteous anger.

 This particular prayer poster has been praying for a man she used to sort of live with. I say sort of becuase he technically lived in his RV which was parked in her driveway but they shared a bed and her home. Last year she demanded he make a commitment and marry her but instead of tying the knot, he left.

Not only did he leave, he met another woman and got engaged!! Well, the prayer poster called him repeatedly and begged him to come back to her. She showed up at his home one day and his fiance was there and got very upset (understandably) and left. My prayer poster stayed the night. Well, to make a long story short, she requested prayer for this man to leave his fiance’ and come back to her even though he had repeatedly hurt her, lied to her, etc. Not to mention, HE WAS NOW ENGAGED!!

This has been going on for one year! The other day she posted a praise saying that he had called her and told her that he was still with his fiance’ but would someday come back to her and when he did, it would be forever. She praised God for the miracle. Hmmmmmm

Today she posted yet another prayer request telling all of us he lied and was just upset with his fiance and again asked for prayer for him to come back becuase she KNEW he was the one God wanted for her.

 Sorry, but after 8 years in heartbreak ministry I don’t see God’s signature on this one at all. Am I wrong for telling her I would pray for her to have the courage to STOP letting him hurt her? And also for her to love God and seek His presence in her life as she does this man who has no repect for her? What do you think? If I am wrong for praying those things instead of what she asked then someone, please… put me in my place.

It’s frustrating to see how many people love their mate more than they love The Lord.  I feel sad for The Lord becuase He loves us so much, even those of us that put him after the man in their life. He never hurts us, fails to make a commitment to us, or disrspects us, yet we treat Him like second string sometimes. Why is that?

I do pray this woman will realize that this guy is and has been playing her for a long time and I do still pray she will find the strength to love herself MORe than to allow someone like this guy in her life.

 Sorry to ramble about that; but I had to share.

It’s just after 11 PM EST here in east Tennessee and my husband will be coming home soon. For those that don’t already know, he;s a police officer and this week he’s on afternoons, which means I am on afternoons! LOL!! Rotating shifts are realllly tough on a police wife.

I’m off to get ready for my sweety but I will be back tomorrow!  Love you all!

For the past several months I have been itching to really get started on a blog. Ministry growth and a new book launch has prevented me from really getting into this; but I love to journal and this is the most perfect way to do it.

I spend most of my days working with people who have been left devestated by the rejection of their love by someone. Although it’s really tough to not form an opinion on a lot of issues and situations, I felt this was a good way for me to share some of the things I deal with so that you can offer your advice and opinions.

We won’t just be sticking to heartbreak issues, I’d like to cover a whole range of issues we Christian women deal with every day. I only ask that we respect one anothers opinions and feelings and not take anything so personal that we have UNChristian like behavior on the blog. Remember, we are all sisters in Christ and it’s OK to agree to disagree.

 Finally, I know some of you may be wondering what is up with the name… well, I thought it would be kind of cute to spin off on the Ya Ya Sisterhood - thus we came up with the Blah Blah Sister Club. When you join my blog you become an official Blah, Blah’er. I kinda like it, maybe we’ll get some T-shirts and stuff made up!!

 Anyway, here is it girls, the offical Blah Blah Sister Club made JUST for us Christian gals who want to Blah Blah!  I love you all and I SO look forward to the fun we’ll have on the blog!!

Love,  Shell